Wednesday, August 14, 2013

RH Law, Violence and Dating Younger Women

RH Law is now again the center of my timeline plus my gossipy instinct to listen from the news about our local movie actress Sunshine Cruz ordeal against her actor husband Cesar Montano with the young girl starlet Krista Miller and that yellow lady with her cleavage to show at a very descent gathering, her name is not familiar but as Senator Koko Pimentels wife, I am interested. 

Both ladies are talking bout RA 9262 or better known as the Anti Violence Against Women and Children (AVAWC). 

Senator koko Pimentel and Jewel May Lobaton

The Twitterverse reaction yesterday was consistent, or might be because my followers and those I followed are more on RH Law supporters and Human Rights Advocates. Though with my more than 4900 plus "friends" at Facebook, both anti and pro have their conflicting statuses. Once again a lot of self proclaimed experts to the law and rights, that's us, Filipinos are good in communication, that's why Philippines is the  Social Networking Capital in the world, we like to comment, argue, debate or maybe Social Revolutionists which is the theme of this year for the 2nd Laguna Blogging Summit that will happen on October 15 and 16, 2013 at Laguna. Very appropriate for the Generation Y. 

Harassment from husbands is not new to everyone. It happened with different reasons but we, the wifey, filed cases only if we thought its against our will. How can a husband can raped the wife if there's love sparkling between the two of you? If the kids or children sleep-over for days at their Daddy's place and the wife is thinking differently, or just like to file a case of kidnapping, she can do that but whatever will be their "real" reason, they are the only ones who knew that or possible just getting a reason to approve the annulment case. I have so many friends who filed cases and even it's not real, their lawyers told them to spill the "right" reasons to have the annulment approved by the judge. 

Cesar Montano, Sunshine Cruz and Krista Miller

A lot of wife's have their own ordeal, our own ordeal. There's no perfect marriage, and as time goes by, different issues comes along. Age is one thing. Mrs. Montano's complaint also is the inappropriate relationship of Cesar to a younger starlet. Men as we know, most of them, are young at heart and loves younger women. I am sure some will disagree but from my circles, realistically, most loves and feels younger to be surrounded with younger people. In the life of a married couple, not to discriminate, Men tends to look for something new or someone.   

There are reasons for these and according to my sources. Here's what they found. 
1. Younger women are often attracted to the security that older men can provide them.
2. A wide generation gap means that the two of you will have different habits and different tastes.
3. Not all May-December relationships are disasters waiting to happen, but most of them are.

 A lot of stable men or blatantly I would say, Rich and "gorgeous" men have a younger partner today. I am even myself is attracted to established, famous, wealthy and popular men, who are like in their 50s..60s. Sounds like one of the many advantages of being wealthy and powerful, right? Sure, but with the perks of a younger girlfriend come some very strange backlashes. 

Check out; Paul McCartney, Donald Trump, Woody Allen, Seal, Prince Charles, Billy Joel or Bill Clinton. 

US President Bill Clinton and his Intern Monica Lewinsky

But is disaster precisely what happens when men date women who are much younger than they are? Do they lose their minds trying to keep up with a girl from a generation they clearly don't relate to?

Dating a girl 10 or 20 (or 60) years your junior is a recipe for trouble.  Because she’s not a fresh start 
One of the mistakes older guys often make is assuming that older women have emotional hang-ups and younger women don’t. Such men are enticed by the seeming innocence and purity of the younger woman. They think that because she’s never had her heart broken she won’t have intimacy issues. They think that because she’s years away from turning 40 she won’t constantly remind him about her biological clock. These men are wrong.

Every woman has baggage. Further, younger women are likely to have issues that older women have outgrown. For example, because of their comparative inexperience when it comes to relationships, younger women are more likely to be needy and insecure.

Because She’s In It For The Wrong Reasons more like a security reason..
Before you start entertaining the idea of dating  younger women, ask yourself this: How come when you were 27 you couldn’t get a girl like the blonde bombshell who now seems so interested in you? 

How is it that now, 10 or 20 years later, when you’re older and probably or definitely worse looking, that you can score the hottest woman you’ve ever dated? What’s different about you?

Here’s a hint: When you were young, you were poor. Now you’re not. Yes, it’s a bit crude, but there’s some truth to it. 
Younger women are often attracted to the security that older men can provide them. Maybe at first you won’t mind exchanging money for sex, but if you develop feelings for the girl you’ll become less and less comfortable with her insincerity and her materialism.

Donuld and Melania Trump

Because You Can’t See Eye To Eye

Another reason why relationships with younger women end badly is because of the generation gap. To put it simply, Men are still burning with sex desires more than women, oh well base on my teeny weeny circles, and men are not really into long term relationship in looking for a nice, pretty body of younger women. A wide generation gap means that the two of you will necessarily have different habits and different tastes. It’s hard to build a relationship when you have so little in common.

Because Your Relationship Is Based On A Transient State Of Mind

One of the most attractive things about younger women is that they live a life largely free of responsibility. Single women in their 20s, for example, often don’t have kids or mortgages. They can still afford to get sloshed on a Wednesday night and they can have sex with whomever they want, whenever they want.

Older men often date younger women in an attempt to recapture this lost state of youthful adventure, but it rarely, if ever, works. While it might be fun to relive your youth for a few weeks, you’ll eventually tire of the club hopping, all-night binge drinking and the other things men over 30 shouldn't be doing. And when you’re lust for adventure fades, so will the relationship.

Because Your Relationship Is The Honeymoon

One of the other reasons why relationships with younger women end badly is because the entire relationship resembles a honeymoon. Initially, you might think that sounds great -- a whole relationship based on sex and romance -- but honeymoons always end. Not only is the intensity of emotion and physical attraction ultimately unsustainable, it's also a pretty shallow basis for a relationship and men is not into relationship if they are looking not thinking. 

Because She’s Your Last, But You’re Her First

You have lots of relationship experience under your belt. You know what you’re looking for in a partner. You know how to weather the storms. You know when to stand your ground and when to compromise.She, however, does not. You are essentially her guinea pig, as she experiments in the field of sex and relationships. Sometimes those experiments will be fun. 

The Fountain Of Youth
Not all May-December relationships are disasters waiting to happen, but most of them are. 

While we’ve outlined the reasons why dating younger women isn’t always the best thing to do, it’s ultimately your choice to make. In the end, if you’re thinking about dating a younger woman, make sure it’s a decision you’re making with your heart and your brain -- not with your pecker.

Plus, gorgeous wealthy men are already taken and just like to get younger women mostly for the lust. A lot out there will surely...agree. 

For married women in their 30s, my personal advice to take or not; 
1. Diet and eat healthy
2. Exercise
3. Have an advocacy 
4. Average weight must be 100 pounds or less
5. Stay beautiful 

'And if you found out your husband is dating a younger woman, kick him out of the house immediately, you deserve more commitment and yes, file a case.'

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